I’m not single, nor have any plans of being single. Nothing against single people, it’s just that time of my life has been long gone.
I do have quite a few single friends. All of them due to divorce. This post is not about marriage but in case you would like to know my position on it I will tell you: I BELIVE in marriage. I believe that it is basic for a good-functioning society and the upbringing of children who will contribute to a better world. With that said, I also know marriage is hard, but it’s good. It’s a good thing… and we work hard to maintain it. I don’t know how I would do it alone. I admire those who do.
At the same time it's not my intention to offend anybody. These are my own perceptions and views.
So my two really good friends, both divorced, found each other somewhere along the path of singlehood. I couldn’t be any happier for them. The other night we double dated. They proposed we did something different by trying a new place. We went to a single adult dance, where “luckily” there were no entrance restrictions if you were married. Therefore, Amor and I got in with a two for one deal. Yahoo!!
I know it’s Utah and a large piece of its population is married but the “minority” is still catered with the goals of getting them finally married, I suppose. A single adult dance is a very common activity held here, mostly among Mormons (Note: these dances are not sponsored by the LDS church. They are put on by a specific organization or group who happen to be Mormon).They hold these dances seeking for an atmosphere different from the clubs where alcohol and other non-Mormon values are prevalent. I personally go to this club downtown because it’s the only and best place for me to Latin dance and that’s what I do. I go for the dancing nothing else. And I enjoy it so very much.
These dances also give single people the opportunity to meet. I used to go to those, many many times when I was single, and they were fun. But boy how things have changed now…
Upon entrance we found this:
and I almost peed my pants from laughing so hard!
Shortly after, the sign started making sense because as we looked around everybody looked at least 40 or older. And there was so much obesity that you could understand why their hearts could fail. They actually fed you at this dance. But look what you got:
And they were playing top 40…I’m sorry but that music just didn’t suit most of the people there well. I asked the DJ if he could play Shakira (because I was hoping to give this dance some flavor) and he said her music and videos were too “immoral” but yet every other song he played was Pitbull who sings about getting drunk and naked women. (Hello?!!)
Amor and I didn’t fit in, nor did our friends. What a surreal experience, really. Such a different world. Not many pretty people...I don’t know why not stay looking young and charming as you age….or at least try. I don’t get it. Most of the men there looked like they hadn’t gone shopping for new clothes in ages and the women…ughhh…I’m not even getting into that…
I suggest that if you are in your 40’s or 50’s you should be doing partner dancing and not top 40 unless you want to look like a fool. But if you really insist and you are really in the mood for Pitbull and dancing in front of your mirror is not enough…then go to Zumba!
I’m sticking with Latin dancing at my lovely place downtown.
I’m sticking with my marriage. I am grateful I found a good man. I’m grateful Amor and I are in this together.
I’m sure grateful I don’t have to worry about the lack of choices. Because that’s the reality I saw in just that one night.
I’m sure grateful I’m not single in Salt Lake City! (Ha!)